There are three kinds of people in this world. The first fears change, the second thrives on the new and unexpected. The third, well, they’re somewhere in the middle. It’s okay to be scared of the unknown, but it’s also important to know how to face change and use it for the better.
Whether you’re fearing what’s ahead or you’re just not excited, I’ve come up with some tips to help you overcome that hump and get you to the sunny side of something new.
Write a list – of only the pros
Comparison is a helpful tool for many things, especially when you need to make an important decision. But once you’ve made that choice, it’s time to focus on the positives.
For example, if you’re starting a new job, but love your current one, there are obviously reasons you’re moving on. Maybe the pay is better, the role is more exciting, the location is more convenient or the benefits are a plus. Either way, remember why you went to that interview – something drove you there. Write it down. Reading it to yourself when doubt sneaks in will help you find confidence in your choice.
Realise your goals and manifest them
Sometimes, change is thrown at us with little say. But that doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it. With every experience comes a lesson. Sometimes that lesson is a hard one, but the hard ones are usually the best. Rather than viewing this unexpected change as an obstacle, think of it as a stepping stone toward your ultimate goal.
Did you lose your job? That means you can try to go for something even closer to your ultimate role. Or, it will teach you how to budget better. Or, maybe it ended something that was actually toxic to you this whole time and you never admitted it.
When the going gets tough, it’s only temporary so focus on the positives that can come from it and use it to get what you want. For example, you have to move but you love where you live. It’s just another opportunity to view the world in a different way. Maybe that new place will be the door to what you’ve been looking for. Who knows – the point is, the unexpected isn’t all doom and gloom. It can be pretty freaking awesome (even if it starts out rocky – trust me, I know).
If you can’t live without the past, keep it
The past can be a heavy weight on change’s shoulders, and it’s important to realise when to leave it behind. But just because something isn’t the same anymore, doesn’t mean you have to ditch everything that feeds your soul.
Think of it this way, if you moved far away, would you just stop talking to your best friend? No, you’d text them, call them, Skype with them. You’d find a way, so do the same for other things that make you happy, even if it’s located in your new city (i.e. a cool class, writer’s group, a good hiking spot, etc).
Immerse yourself in the new
Whether you’re moving to a new town, starting a new job, or going to a new school, it can be intimidating to put yourself out there. But the more you lock yourself away from the new, the more stagnant you become. You won’t mesh with everyone you meet, but you’ll find someone who will show you around, introduce you to more like-minded people and places you may not have found on your own. Maybe they’ll even teach you some really cool stuff and bring out another side in you. The new isn’t always worse.
Be honest with yourself
When change comes a knockin’ we often slam the door in its face. It’s disrupting your routine and we’ve been programmed to think that’s a bad thing. But is your current routine actually good for you? Consistency might be comfortable, but is it only comfortable because you’ve been doing it for so long? Or because it’s actually making you happy?
We tend to glamourise the past or the present that’s about to leave us, but take a moment to think about everything that is uncomfortable right now. Maybe this change will make it better, or it’ll simply force you to change more than just one thing in your life.
Let’s be honest, it could be time to do some spring cleaning.
Do you have a hack for embracing change? Comment below!
P.S. If you’re going through a change right now and it’s making you anxious, check out my top tips for reducing anxiety.